Aging in Place vs. Care Facilities: Planning Ahead

What You Will Learn

  • Why planning your future home now is key to maintaining control later in life.
  • What’s required to successfully “age in place” and stay in your home safely.
  • When to consider care facilities and what options are available for different needs.
  • How to assess your home, support network, and finances to make the right choice.

    Estimated Reading Time 7 – 10 minutes

Aging in Place vs. Care Facilities: Planning Ahead

Here’s a question that might surprise you: where do you picture yourself at 85? Maybe you’re imagining yourself in your favorite armchair, looking out the window of the home where you’ve lived for decades. Or perhaps you’re envisioning a bright apartment in a retirement community, making new friends and enjoying activities without worrying about home maintenance. There’s no right or wrong answer—but there is tremendous value in thinking about it now, while you have time to plan and explore your options. The decisions you make today about aging can dramatically impact not just where you live, but how you live, and even how your end-of-life planning unfolds.

The Great Canadian Dream: Aging at Home

Most Canadians share a common wish: to age in their own homes, surrounded by familiar spaces and cherished memories. There’s something deeply comforting about the idea of staying in the place where you’ve built your life, raised your family, and created countless memories. The good news? With proper planning, aging in place is absolutely achievable for many people. The key word here is planning. Successful aging at home doesn’t just happen—it requires thoughtful preparation, honest assessment of your needs, and often some creative problem-solving. What Aging in Place Really Means Aging in place means remaining in your own home as you grow older, adapting your living situation as needed rather than moving to a care facility. It might involve installing grab bars in the bathroom, arranging for housekeeping help, or having meals delivered. The goal is maintaining independence and comfort in familiar surroundings.

Real Stories: Making Home Work

Robert and Helen’s Gradual Adaptations Robert and Helen, both 78, have lived in their Winnipeg bungalow for forty-five years. “We never wanted to leave,” Helen says. “This house holds our whole life.” Over the past five years, they’ve made thoughtful changes. They installed a walk-in shower, added better lighting throughout the house, and arranged for a cleaning service to come weekly. Their daughter lives nearby and checks in regularly, while a local service delivers groceries. “We’re still independent, but we’re not stubborn about accepting help,” Robert explains. “The key was planning these changes before we desperately needed them.” Mary’s Community of Support Mary, 82, lives alone in her Toronto apartment but has built an impressive network of support. Her building has a concierge who keeps an eye on residents, she participates in a neighborhood seniors’ program, and she’s arranged for a personal support worker to visit twice a week. “I’m not isolated at all,” Mary laughs. “Some days I’m busier than I was when I was working! The difference is I planned for this phase of my life instead of just hoping it would work out.”

When Care Facilities Make Sense

Sometimes, despite our best intentions and planning, staying at home becomes challenging or unsafe. This isn’t a failure—it’s simply life changing, and adapting to those changes can actually be liberating. Types of Care Options in Canada
  • Independent Living Communities: Apartments or condos designed for seniors who want less maintenance and more social opportunities
  • Assisted Living: Support with daily activities while maintaining independence and privacy
  • Long-Term Care: 24-hour nursing care for those with significant health needs or cognitive decline

Real Stories: Finding the Right Fit

Jim’s Surprising Discovery Jim, 74, moved to an assisted living community in Vancouver after a fall at home left him worried about safety. “I thought I’d hate it,” he admits. “But honestly, it’s been wonderful.” Jim discovered he enjoys the social aspects of community living and feels relieved knowing help is available if he needs it. “I spent so much energy worrying about maintaining the house and what would happen if I had another fall. Now I can focus on enjoying my days.” Patricia’s Practical Decision Patricia, 79, chose to move to a retirement community in Halifax after her husband passed away. “The house felt too big and too quiet,” she explains. “Here, I have my own apartment, but I’m not alone.” Patricia particularly values the peace of mind her decision brought her adult children. “They worried about me being alone in that big house. Now they can visit and enjoy our time together instead of worrying about my safety.”

Planning Ahead: The Questions to Ask Yourself

Assess Your Current Home Walk through your home with fresh eyes. Are there stairs that might become challenging? Is the bathroom safe for someone with mobility issues? Could you navigate your home with a walker or wheelchair if needed? Consider Your Support Network Who lives nearby? Do you have family or friends who could help with occasional needs? Are there community services available in your area? The stronger your support network, the more feasible aging in place becomes. Think About Your Personality Are you someone who enjoys solitude, or do you thrive on social interaction? Do you love maintaining your home, or has it become a burden? Your personality should influence your planning as much as your practical needs. Financial Considerations Both aging in place and care facilities involve costs. Home modifications, support services, and potential care needs all require financial planning. Similarly, care facilities involve monthly fees and varying levels of additional services.

The Health and Wellness Connection

Here’s something many people don’t consider: your housing decisions can significantly impact your end-of-life planning. When you have a clear plan for aging—whether at home or in a care facility—you can make more informed decisions about advance directives, healthcare preferences, and even funeral planning.

If You Plan to Age at Home: Consider how emergency medical situations would be handled. Do you have neighbors or family who check on you regularly? Are your advance directi

ves easily accessible? Have you discussed your end-of-life preferences with nearby family members?

If You Consider Care Facilities: Research facilities’ policies about end-of-life care. Do they work with hospice services? How do they support families during difficult times? Some facilities have excellent pall

iative care programs that can provide comfort and dignity during final stages of life.

Making Modifications That Matter

Simple Changes with Big Impact:

  • Improved lighting throughout the house
  • Grab bars in bathrooms and along hallways
  • Removal of tripping hazards like loose rugs
  • Easy-reach storage solutions
  • Emergency response systems

Technology That Helps:

  • Medical alert systems
  • Smart home features for lighting and temperature
  • Video calling systems to stay connected with family
  • Medication management apps and dispensers

The Emotional Side of Planning

It’s natural to feel emotional about these decisions. Your home represents independence, memories, and identity. The idea of needing help or potentially moving can feel like loss, even when it’s the right choice.

Remember that planning ahead actually preserves your autonomy. When you make these decisions while you’re healthy and thinking clearly, you maintain control over your future rather than having choices made for you during a crisis.

Connecting All Your Planning Together

At Kinship, we often see how housing decisions connect with overall end-of-life planning. Families who have clear plans for aging, documented healthcare preferences, and prearranged funeral services experience much less stress when changes become necessary.

When your aging plan is in place, whether that’s aging at home with support or transitioning to appropriate care, your family can focus on spending quality time with you rather than scrambling to make arrangements during difficult moments.

Starting the Conversation

The best time to plan for aging is before you need to. Start having conversations with family members about your preferences and concerns. Visit different types of care facilities in your area—not because you’re ready to move, but because knowledge helps you make informed decisions.

Consider what modifications might make your current home safer and more comfortable. Research community services available to seniors in your area. The more you know about your options, the more confident you’ll feel about your choices.

Taking Action, Not Just Planning

Planning for aging isn’t just about making decisions—it’s about taking practical steps. This might mean starting to declutter your home gradually, researching community services, visiting care facilities, or having honest conversations with family members about your preferences and concerns.

Remember, good planning preserves your choices. Whether you end up aging happily at home or discovering that a care community enhances your quality of life, the key is making these decisions thoughtfully rather than reactively.

Ready to explore your options for aging with dignity and independence? Taking time to plan ahead ensures you’ll have choices and control over this important aspect of your life, complementing your other end-of-life planning decisions.

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Leigh Young

Leigh Young

General Agent
As General Agent of Kinship, Leigh Young brings a fresh perspective to preneed, blending 25 years of business development expertise with genuine curiosity about what matters most to families planning ahead. Her approach and belief in continuous improvement drives meaningful change, a philosophy that shapes how Kinship supports partner growth. By focusing on what matters most to both families and partners, Leigh helps build stronger, more meaningful connections in every pre-planning conversation.
Jocelyne Leblanc-Kang

Jocelyne Leblanc-Kang

Regional Sales Director
As Regional Sales Director, Jocelyne brings over a decade of pre-planning expertise to Kinship. Her deep understanding of funding products and industry operations helps our partners grow their preneed programs effectively. Having been with the agency since its inception, Jocelyne’s talent for developing marketing strategies and mentoring new enrollers ensures our partners receive the support they need to serve families better.
Dave Laemers

Dave Laemers

Dave’s drive to explore new possibilities shapes his unique approach to preneed growth. Drawing from his computer science education and 15 years of funeral home operations experience, he empowers partners to step confidently into digital solutions. His teaching background fuels his commitment to understanding each partner’s challenges, creating thoughtful approaches that transform the pre-planning experience.
Kathy Daye

Kathy Daye

Sales Coordinator

With over two decades of sales and operations leadership, Kathy brings valuable expertise to Kinship as our Sales Coordinator. Her five years in pre-planning and exceptional relationship-building skills ensure families receive outstanding support whether meeting virtually or by phone. Kathy’s talent for creating meaningful connections helps our partners make pre-planning accessible to more families.

Camela Leblanc

Camela Leblanc

Administration and Customer Relations

Drawing from her unique background in healthcare, education, and technology support at Apple, Camela expertly manages our office administration and customer relations. Her attention to detail and problem-solving skills make her an invaluable liaison with TruStage, ensuring smooth policy administration and exceptional support for our partners and their families.